As we are still going through the 'truth testing' of this year's solstice energies we are diving right into one of the most challenging subject for most of us - is this true love? And if it isn't how can I work on aligning myself or my relationship to more truth?
There is much written about Love but it isn't until we can fully connect with our heart that we are beginning to realize why this is not an easy question to answer. It depends on how connected a person is! Love can be based on many different things other than actual true love: security, money, loneliness, desire, status, narcissism or neediness to feel whole through someone else. I'm sure we've all experienced at least one of each of these reasons for being in a relationship. But is this a good foundation for a happy and lasting relationship?
Happiness depends on each partner's expectations. If both agree on the purpose of their relationship and there are no unspoken or hidden aganda, both can be satified with their relationship. However, most of us don't know what to expect or even what we truly want - not to mention how to communicate it to our partner. Most relationships are based on the deep belief that we cannot reach what we are searching for on our own, and so we are beginning to externalize our love to our partner. It is only a matter of time until one of us begins to begin to try to control or manipulate , just so we can make sure we get our investment back. So, how can we know that true Love is possible if we cannot feel it or know what to expect?