As we begin to understand that our preprogrammed idea of a perfect relationship is nothing but a incessantly promoted idealization prepping us for a multi-Billion-Dollar Wedding industry. The truth behind romanticized songs and movies is to play on our unresolved shadow cravings and inner child attachments issues. From an energetic point of view, persistent or repetitive relationship issues play directly into our unseen shadow and false self patterns.

In classical couple counseling it is not commonly seen how unconscious Shadow aspects can play a major role in repetitive relationship issues; and not just in our romantic relationships! However, deeper energy work can open up the reason why this is so difficult for us to see. Whether we are aware of it or not Shadow Traits can show in emotional manipulation, sexual projection, victimhood, specialness, superiority, disdain and co-dependencies. If we want to know how to transcend our persistent relationship patterns we need to get to the deeper aspects of our unseen energetic interaction and learn how they express in our relationships.

Waking up to our inner worlds often means discovering and dealing with forgotten, repressed unloved or hidden inner aspects of our personality – in self-healing we call this Shadow Work. For most of us it can come with another uncomfortable revelation – the discovery of our sexual shadow aspects.

Becoming aware of sexual shadow traits in oneself is a natural part of our self-transformation and ascension process and is should not to be judged or condemned - nor excluded. The fact that we are becoming more aware of our shadow traits doesn’t mean that we are ‘bad’ or that we have been bad in the past; it simply means that we have a higher consciousness level now and, that we can live a more aware and responsible life from here on.

What we weren’t aware of in the past is past – it's part of our learning curve and all this means id\s witnessing our naiveté in the past - but what we have become aware of in the present is now a part of our consciousness and therefore needs to be dealt with.

Since the publication of the short announcement of our upcoming Healing Circle Workshop ' Energetic Aspects of of Sexuality" and a previous article “Dealing with Sexual Shadow” many emails and forum posts have reached me, asking questions about Sexual Shadow and Sexuality in context with Spirituality. Here a few examples (abbreviated):

“What does my sexuality have to do with my spiritual journey?”

“I am in a happy relationship with one partner for more than 25 years. How does sexual shadow apply to me?”

“I haven’t had sex for many years, why do you suggest to work with my sexual shadow?”

“I love my sexuality and don’t feel there is anything wrong with expressing myself through sex. Why do you call this ‘part of inner darkness’?”

“ I am a devout Christian and believe in sex for married couples only. I am not married. Do I need to work on my sexual shadow?”

“Do I need to feel bad about masturbation?”

“Is homosexuality part of Sexual Shadow?”

“I have been sexually abused when I was younger. As a result I never found pleasure in having sex and have been trying to avoid it. What can I do to work on this block? How can shadow-work help me?”

“ I have sexual dreams. Is this a sign of an energetic attachment or simply my sexual shadow?”

“I keep having sexual thoughts about other people. Does this mean I am sexually projecting or projected at?”

“I have sexual feelings during mediation. It this a sign of sexual shadow?”

“How does watching pornography affect my spiritual journey?”

Nobody wants to be reminded of darkness, especially not the kind that resides within. It's relatively easy to point fingers at other people's or collective darkness, but when it comes to our inner 'dragons' we are often completely blind. Why does our ego filter, distract from and avoid truth? And what does this do to our personal energy?

What many don't understand is that avoiding or fighting darkness actually leads to the opposite effect. Whether it's our inner or outer darkness, the more we resist the more energy we push into it.

News, movies, songs and shows are all focused on dealing with outer darkness. Things we cannot control. But what about our inner darkness? How does it relate to outer darkness? Is there a connection? How can we learn to transcend our fear of darkness without getting pulled into it?

transMISSION Modalities Explained

Shadow Work is one of the pillars of self-healing and inner reconciliation. (Click here to read more about Shadow Work.) For all who are serious about actively wanting to work on negative behavior patterns, unhealthy habits or simply detaching from limiting factors in life this inner consciousness work is a gentle yet effective way to learn how to face, recontextualize and let go of hidden core fears.

Recently, you may have noticed that some of your old shadow traits or deeper aspects of your defensive structure/ coping programs are slowly creeping back into your life even though you have been really focusing on integration, healing and letting go.

This does not necessarily mean that you are regressing or going backwards, but more so it is a sign that you are going deeper into the programs and patterns that limit you or are not true, which at the same time also brings up a serious challenge to stay aligned to your heart and letting go. And, you might have recently felt an even more challenging time with the added intensity of collective energies that can also trigger our ego.

Our defensive structure and coping methods of the ego were developed initially to find ways to deal with pain, fear, suffering, and even trauma. They were the response given to protect our vulnerable nature (the True Self), and keep us in a perceived state of safety, accepted, even loved.

With time, these restrictive methods blossomed through repetition into very complex, multilayered programs geared at keeping that very open and hurt part of us hidden, restricted, lost or even simply denied. This of course works for many without feeling the need change; however, a smaller percentage of us feel the frustration of denying part of themselves or their expression, which leads to seeking change, introspection and even an active search for ways to change.

For most, this entails shunning or denying our shadow at first as we try ‘to get rid of it,’ which only increases the restriction and adds layers to our ego’s methodology. This can bring about even more frustration, doubt, and judgment of just how bad we are creating a vicious cycle that just keeps adding to the ego.

Energy Updates

Weekly Energy Digest Week 16 & 17 - Energy Update 15th-25th April 2017

What can I say? The past two weeks went by as expected...so, I sat out the last report not wanting to waste your time with sounding like a broken record. Shadow stuff and Inner Child got us well last week - inner conflicts were reigning our life making many of us feel like GETTING STUCK IN INNER DARKNESS. It felt like nothing resolved but just repeated; in addition, most of us dealt with HEAVY PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS, such as continual tiredness, dizziness, nausea, shoulder and stomach issues - with some of us even getting temporarily locked up with disc issues and lower back/hip pain.

So far, the month of April has definitely been up there on the list of rough times... The tiredness and/or insomnia is seriously wearing us down and so, it's no surprise that e all feel a bit run down through STAGNATION. However, while these times in which collective energy bands force us to do an internal reality check suck, they also provide a great opportunity for healing - that is from an energy work perspective. As we are finally getting sick of ourselves, our tiredness allows us to pierce the veil of EGO ILLUSIONS and brings us into the position of recognizing that "if we don't change anything, nothing is going to change."

Weekly Energy Digest Week 15 - Energy Update 8th-14th April 2017

Last week we had a lively demonstration of what it feels like to be in resistance from within. While it was pretty obvious to energetically sensitive people that energies had been building and that there was going to be some kind of obstacle ahead, it it could still hit us really hard,. This made HOLDING OUR OWN SPACE almost impossible last week.