Healing the Energetic State of Self-Love Deficiency - Part 1

Self-Love is our most powerful inner healing resonance and yet practically the most commonly neglected or confused expression of Lovingness. From an energetic point of view there is an innate connection between being SELF-LOVE DEFICIENT and being CODEPENDENT. We run about our lives as if there is a lion was chasing us, trying to please others or simply fulfill our perceived duties as mothers/fathers, daughters/sons, lovers or workers. We feel caught between feeling the right to have feelings/needs and providing for others. This can lead to an externalization of Self-Love to others. We are caught in the wheel of giving, searching or trying to get what we cannot feel from within.

Confusing Unmet Needs With Inadequacy - Part 3

If our lives are run by the constant need for approval, self-doubt and not feeling good enough we are confusing our own needs with those of others. Through our empathic ability to anticipate, give and provide for needs/pleasure for others we unconsciously make our sense of self depend on our ability to give. However, our needs and wants are what define our sense for self. It provides us with the feedback of our state of being. When we don't know what we need or we can't express them properly we cannot feel ourselves! The codependent fixates on meeting other people's needs so that we can feel fulfillment and self-awareness in a different way.

Self-Love is our most powerful inner healing resonance and yet practically the most neglected amonst us empaths. From an energetic point of view there is an innate connection between being an empath and being co-dependent. We run about our lives as if there is a lion was chasing us, trying to please others or simply fulfill our perceived duties as mothers, daughters, lovers or workers. We feel caught between feeling the right to live and love ourselves, and yet unconsciously externalize our love to others.

In energy work we understand, that the transformation of physical, mental, emotional or spiritual disharmonies is merely a matter of aligning ourselves, our thoughts, emotions and actions to the right frequency. But in order to feel loved, we need to feel alive first! The needed frequency for feeling unconditional self love, which translates to ourselves is called Self-Love and shared with others True Love (read "Understanding True Love") comes not form the outside, but from within!

SELF HEALING IN ACTION - FIELD REPORTS - JUNE 2018

GRACE Gaia Sophia Marathon

Occasionally, I publish my session reflections as Field Report, so that those who are not familiar with energy work can get a peek into how Self-Healing in Action can look like.

Once a month we faciliate a 3-day remote energy Mindfulness Marathon. This format is very popular for those who want to really dive into their inner Self-Healing experience. They are open for everyone, however, due to the intensity of inner experiences it usually attracts people who are not afraid of encountering the depth of their energetic perception.

One of the main themes in intense times like right now is learning to discern dark from light forces - chaos from unity. Once we find ourselves beginning to see truth an inner transformation begins to happen. We begin to feel attracted to higher vibrational places, people and teachings and we feel a longing for SOUL INTEGRATION. What drives us now is not our ego but the resolution of inner SEPARATION & FEAR through allowing ourselves to feel whole again. It is then when we begin to feel a renewed trust in our inner higher power to guide us through the darkness in this world, that we finally understand the purpose of the pain of chaos.

To overcome the pain of inner separation we recognize that all we need is to reconnect to our WHOLE & UNITED SELF, and realize that our journey is a healing path to find our lost SOUL PURPOSE again. Let's illuminate together, what these deeper aspects of self healing mean for our personal journey:

DIVINE MASCULINE & FEMININE ENERGIES

We’ve all heard about Yin-Yang and how this inner balance of masculine and feminine energies is important; but do we really understand why? Why is the balancing of these inner energies so important? What are some of the consequences if they are out of balance? How does our personal experiences of Masculinity and Femininity influence our life and our relationships? While actively engaging in our inner self-healing these and other questions often crystallize as core aspects in our self-healing journey.

Without going deeper into the metaphysical or mystical meaning of these pure forms of Divine energy and how they came to be separated as two different genders, try to understand your energy field as the result of a fusion of the Divine Feminine and Masculine Spirit – much like of mother and father energies, only on a deeper level of energy. To explore your inner relationship with the Divine Masculine and Feminine and their state of balance within you, you typically need to look at how we originally perceived these Divine energies through your parents/caretakers representing those energies for you in your early stages.

Many energetic blocks and hidden aspects lead back to a lack or imbalance of our source of energy. While most of us assume that our primary source lies in masculinity for males and femininity for females, energy work teaches us that primary source is not so much in the singularity of our gender but the unity and balance of both: the Divine Masculine and Feminine within.

In recent years the amount of discussions about Twin Souls and Twin Flames on the internet has skyrocketed. Since 2009, when I started working with energetic merging modalities and TwinSoul energies in this subject seems to have advanced to one of the most popular new-age/spiritual/ascension subjects. Frankly, to honor the sacredness and sensitivity of this subject it would be best to keep information about energetic merging silent, but because of the growing number of people experiencing confusing interpersonal energetic sensations and the flood of misinformation about the Twin Soul phenomenon, I would like to offer my observations and insights working with Twin Soul couples and energies. At the same time I would like to remind you to absorb this information with full functioning inner discernment - keep what resonates with you and toss the rest.

The objective of this article is not to add more romance and sentimentality to the already questionable info regarding the Twin Flame subject, but to inform those of you who are questioning or doubting their inner perceptions or those who would like to learn more about relationships. (For balance and authenticity purposes I also shared a critical view on working with Twin Soul energies.)

Everything that is being said here about a Twin Soul relationship could also apply to any happy and longlasting partnership or relationships between energetically sensitive people who are striving for higher vibratory unions. In the end it doesn't matter how you call it. The best way to go about our relationships is to so love with an open heart, to know what your true needs and desires are and to conitnue learning how to best communcate your true feelings and needs.

Perhaps, you find yourself at a point of your journey where you feel compelled to investigate the truth about the quality of you Love and how much Self-Love you really feel within you. As you probably already know, whether of not you are in a romantic relationship is not a measuring tool for your inner love. Your inner connection is. However, intensified by current collective energies many of us are dealing with a frequent feeling of loneliness and difficulties to connect within.

Loving and trusting somebody requires us to be able to love ourselves first. If we don’t feel good enough or undeserving of love we can’t trust in ourselves; and thus we can't trust others. Feeling unloved can mean that we are not quite willing yet to trust in our Self-Love yet, which is often linked to perceiving ourselves as flawed or not meeting our own or projected expectations. We are simply not in a loving relationship with ourselves yet.

From this perspective it’s understandable that we find it challenging to invite True Love into our lives and perhaps even dismiss or give up on it altogether. To overcome conditionality in Love we need to be willing to love others as ourselves. The key to this is in reflecting on the conditions and limitations of how we perceive love. Follow me here and let's reflect on how to overcome the Conditions of Love:

Connection (Self-Love) & Intimacy

For many, these words or states are something that feels confusing, not obtainable, or that we are not worthy of...

For others, they are something we seek, yet avoid at the same time, as deep down we fear the vulnerability that is there if we open up.

Others still, seek for these in someone or something else as we feel these energies are outside of us or come only through outside connection.

And yet, fewer still realize that maybe the only way to be loving and connected is to begin to love ourselves.