By jona bryndis, May 4 2019 03:49AM
Confusing Unmet Needs With Inadequacy - Part 3
If our lives are run by the constant need for approval, self-doubt and not feeling good enough we are confusing our own needs with those of others. Through our empathic ability to anticipate, give and provide for needs/pleasure for others we unconsciously make our sense of self depend on our ability to give. However, our needs and wants are what define our sense for self. It provides us with the feedback of our state of being. When we don't know what we need or we can't express them properly we cannot feel ourselves! The codependent fixates on meeting other people's needs so that we can feel fulfillment and self-awareness in a different way.