Healing the Energetic State of Self-Love Deficiency - Part 1

Self-Love is our most powerful inner healing resonance and yet practically the most commonly neglected or confused expression of Lovingness. From an energetic point of view there is an innate connection between being SELF-LOVE DEFICIENT and being CODEPENDENT. We run about our lives as if there is a lion was chasing us, trying to please others or simply fulfill our perceived duties as mothers/fathers, daughters/sons, lovers or workers. We feel caught between feeling the right to have feelings/needs and providing for others. This can lead to an externalization of Self-Love to others. We are caught in the wheel of giving, searching or trying to get what we cannot feel from within.

For many awakening souls and energetically sensitive persons it is becoming more and more obvious that our energy is not totally independent or separate from others, the environment or even planetary influences. However, this doesn't mean that we have to feel like victims of a global conspiracy or that we're doomed to live our lives feeling trapped in the prison of the human collective unconsious! The awakening to this kind of knowing can be a bit harsh (as shown in the Matrix movies) - but if we can contextualize our individual journey as part of a greater, we will begin to understand that there is not only a major shift that's happening within ourselves, but for humanity as a whole.

When we think of Manifestating our goals, the first thing that comes to our mind is probably what we don’t have or wish for the most: lots of money, healthy/beautiful body, a happy relationship, a loving home or family or any other long anticipated wish or desire. If manifestation were really based on how ‘hard’ we wished for something, none of us would perceive lack – we are all good at hoping for and dreaming of a better future – but wishing is not the same as manifesting!

The popular ‘Law of Attraction’ movement is not the whole truth. It states that manifestation is the expression of energetic resonance – this part is correct. But our Attractor Field does not only reflect what we wish for. It reflects everything we hold in mind, heart and spirit about how we feel about ourselves and what we want to manifest in the present. As the energies we attract reflect EVERYTHING we align our energy to – consciously or unconsciously – we often don’t understand why our manifestations are so different from what we are trying to attract. We get frustrated, disappointed and give up.

To understand the connection between our Personal Energy System and our stress levels we need to know how to improve our Personal Energy Management. Our energy system, and with it the state of our physical, emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing is composed of millions of holographic energy codes interacting with another and outer energies. It is self-intelligent and programmed to self-heal and expand. It constantly repairs and replaces body cells; processes thoughts and insights, integrates emotions and stores experiences for later application. An optimally working energy system provides inner balance, peace and an optimal flow and amount of energy to maintain, express and expand our vitality. Inefficient Energy Management can lead to chronic stress, addictions and even mental or physical health issues.

Perhaps, you find yourself at a point of your journey where you feel compelled to investigate the truth about the quality of you Love and how much Self-Love you really feel within you. As you probably already know, whether of not you are in a romantic relationship is not a measuring tool for your inner love. Your inner connection is. However, intensified by current collective energies many of us are dealing with a frequent feeling of loneliness and difficulties to connect within.

Loving and trusting somebody requires us to be able to love ourselves first. If we don’t feel good enough or undeserving of love we can’t trust in ourselves; and thus we can't trust others. Feeling unloved can mean that we are not quite willing yet to trust in our Self-Love yet, which is often linked to perceiving ourselves as flawed or not meeting our own or projected expectations. We are simply not in a loving relationship with ourselves yet.

From this perspective it’s understandable that we find it challenging to invite True Love into our lives and perhaps even dismiss or give up on it altogether. To overcome conditionality in Love we need to be willing to love others as ourselves. The key to this is in reflecting on the conditions and limitations of how we perceive love. Follow me here and let's reflect on how to overcome the Conditions of Love:

Metaphysical Concepts

Part of our collective human awakening process is the desire to break free from old paradigms and collective uncertainty. The strongest force holding us back on this journey is our ego’s fear of death and the fear of pain. It expresses through endless loops of spiraling thinking and dramatizing while our Heart, through which we could tap into the ‘Field of all Possibilities’ slowly dystrophies. If we lose the connection with our heart, we are trapped in our programmed and survival oriented ego. Our life becomes dominated by inner and outer conflicts and contradictions - our inner dualisms. We become empty, anxious and lonely and our biggest fear is Nothingness.

A heart-based consciousness gives us the ability to discern who we truly are, what drives us, what our real needs are and what we truly want – and what the world needs. It spontaneously clears our inner dissonances, provides inner peace and delivers the guidance on how to get there.

BASICS OF ENERGY WORK

Holistic Health means being happy in all areas of life. When we are happy life is easy to deal with. In the state of love, gratitude or joy we feel deeply connected; we regard our life as positive and our outlook on our future is optimistic. When was the last time you truly felt this way? For many of us these states are the exception. Around the clock we busy coping with either physical health, financial insecurity, relationship problems, emotional instability, mental worrying, addictions or spiritual isolation.

Only very few people have decoded the art of a healthy and happy life as expression of an holistic energetic balance and wholeness.

The journey of knowing one’s self has many avenues and methods, but exploring our inner energies and paying attention to our inner signals can really help to obtain a greater sense for ourselves.

Much can be shown, sensed and experienced if we can withstand the ego/mind’s temptation to interpret and add familiar meaning/opinion to our inner explorations. A way to begin to sense more or feel more is to learn how to focus on our key energy points within the body…the main 7 chakras.

At its very core, working with our energy centers and learning how to consciously read our energy system an reveal a tremendous level of understanding ourselves, even if we are not sure yet how we are supposed to do that. We all have the ability to tap into our own energy, we just need to accept that it's like learning a new language - with a little practice and study everybody can learn how to feel chakra energies within themselves!

In the beginning of energetic chakra and perception work, we will learn how to tune into our physical sensations and how to associate them with our inner feelings. We will find that every emotion can be felt as energetic state and learn how to discern our our emotions, sensations and feelings. Feeling stuck, trapped, anxious, but also physical pain or limiting beliefs - all these different emotions and sensations can be seen as energetic frequencies in which an imbalance or dissonance is present. As soon as we learn how to identify dissonant energies our self-healing journey begins. From here it's only a matter of time until we can utilize our innate 'energy language' to learn how to work with our own energies and to feel, sense and even change the flow our own energetic system.

PHYSICAL INTEGRATION

Within our Physical Energy System are several energetic levels of manifestation. There is of course our overall health, but then there is also our outer appearance and symmetry, our body’s expressions and their congruence, our life force and our physical radiance.

The least dense part of our physical is our DNA, and energetic metabolism; followed by our cells, organs, soft tissue, nervous system and lastly represented through the densest part of our physical system - our bones and its skeletal structure. Let’s begin exploring energetic expressions of resistance by looking at the fundamentals of our physicality and how inner conflicts can play out in the physical manifestation of ailments.

The best example for energetic resistance in the physical, and therefore often reflecting the core of our emotional, mental and spiritual struggles are our joints.