YIN/YANG: How our inner Masculine and Feminine Balance affects our Life and Relationships
By jona bryndis, Apr 9 2018 10:08PM
We’ve all heard about Yin-Yang and how this inner balance of masculine and feminine energies is important; but do we really understand why? Why is the balancing of these inner energies so important? What are some of the consequences if they are out of balance? How does our personal experiences of Masculinity and Femininity influence our life and our relationships? While actively engaging in our inner self-healing these and other questions often crystallize as core aspects in our self-healing journey.
Without going deeper into the metaphysical or mystical meaning of these pure forms of Divine energy and how they came to be separated as two different genders, try to understand your energy field as the result of a fusion of the Divine Feminine and Masculine Spirit – much like of mother and father energies, only on a deeper level of energy. To explore your inner relationship with the Divine Masculine and Feminine and their state of balance within you, you typically need to look at how we originally perceived these Divine energies through your parents/caretakers representing those energies for you in your early stages.
Many energetic blocks and hidden aspects lead back to a lack or imbalance of our source of energy. While most of us assume that our primary source lies in masculinity for males and femininity for females, energy work teaches us that primary source is not so much in the singularity of our gender but the unity and balance of both: the Divine Masculine and Feminine within.
From an energetic point of view, stored negative energies around our parents and upbringing not only influence our view and inner programming in regards to gender-specific behaviors and understanding of female and male role modeling, but also our personal ability to identify and connect with Divine Masculine and Feminine energies. Internal masculine/feminine imbalances are therefore very often linked to our parental influences. They determine our personal attitude towards our own and the other gender and with our capacity for self-love and unconditionally loving others.
Many of transCODES' energy work modalities, such as GRACE Integrity® (by P.St.Clair) and Connecting with the Divine Masculine & Feminine are specifically designed to decouple any masculine and feminine programs energetically linked to our parents, so that we can experience love from within ourselves without the limitations of our experienced parental love. In those energy processes we connect with our inner father and mother energies and allow their meaning beyond their parental role for us to unfold. This can create very beautiful and connecting moments if we have/had a loving relationship with our mother and father; but also trigger some resistance or resurfacing of old wounds if we had absent, neglecting or abusive parents.
While the love of /for our parents can sometimes pave the pathway to our inner Divine Love, it cannot be the source for our self-love, as it still is an external energy! This is particularly true for those us (which is the majority) who had/have a difficult relationship with both or one of our parents, as it often leads to skewed views and selective self-perception, for example self-worth and intimacy issues.
To show the often unconscious interconnection between our parental energies and the development of our inner masculine/feminine balance I am going to describe two of the most prevalent patterns leading to imbalanced feminine/masculine energies:
Absent Fathers: If we grew up with a physically or emotionally absent father the missing masculine energies in our early life made it difficult to develop a trusting, loving and secure inner connection with our own masculinity if we are male; with men, if we are female (vice versa in case of an absent mother). In addition to this, we typically also had to emotionally process our mother’s negative opinion about his absence, which very often cemented this gap even further and affected the how we could allow our own identification naturally to happen.
As a result of this energetically single-sided upbringing, we tend to fantasize or mystify the absent energy often leading to an idealized and later unobtainable version of a man or woman. This cannot only block our inner self-love but also influence our romantic relationships in a negative way. With an unreal expectation of ourselves and/or the other gender our relationship experiences often retraumatize us and increase our missing inner balance. Self-worth, trust and intimacy issues are very common phenomena tied to imbalance masculine-feminine connection.
Controlling Mothers: Another example is the overbearing, hyper-critical or controlling mother. If we experienced femininity as a controlling, never satisfied or even manipulating, our choices to embrace inner femininity become pretty limited (vice versa in case of controlling father). If we are female, we often either rebel against feminine energy by favoring our masculine energies and by rejecting femininity altogether; or we unconsciously connect love with control and repeat our mother’s patterns. If we are male, the two typical ways to react to this experience are: Trying to comply out of fear of wrath and developing pleasing and co-dependency patterns (never feeling good enough); or acting out counter-control mechanisms, repressed anger, mistrust and resentment towards femininity through predatory and often sexual manipulation or degradation (here I would like to mention that excessive watching of pornography can be a coveted form of sexual degradation.)
There are many other examples of our masculine and feminine energies can get trapped in our disturbed experience of love through same or opposite gender identification problems. The main thing to realize is that these aspects and their energetic attachments are merely dispositions. If we can manage to energetically decouple them from our parents they can easily be reintegrated. One way to do this is to actively seek the inner connection to masculine and feminine energies through connecting with their original Divine source instead keeping them tied to actual persons. In this manner we can circumvent our personal memories and parental programming by healing this inner relationship through the Divine Field within.
In other words, we all can build our own balanced connection with Masculinity and Femininity free of parental programs. This is a very important step not only in self-healing but also spirituality in general, as our a masculine/feminine imbalance typically shows on almost all other energetic levels:
- Chakra-Energy Flow
- Emotional and Mental processing
- Expression and Communication of Self
- Manifestation of Self
- True Self Connection
- Inner Child
- Ability to Trust
- Ability to Connect/True Intimacy
- Ability to Love and Self-Love
The balance of inner Divine Masculine and Feminine Energies is the main vibratory resonance needed for unlocking our true inner and outer connection and soul-integrity. Without them we are just minds or bodies with a fragmented soul-attachment, unaware of who we truly are and what we came here for.
"You open the gates of the soul to let the dark flood of chaos flow into your order and meaning. If you marry the ordered to the chaos you produce the divine child, the supreme meaning beyond meaning and meaninglessness." ~ Carl Jung, The Red Book - Reader's Edition.
Thank you for your time!
Energy Coach & Founder of transCODES