When life becomes intense, how do you 'HANDLE' it?
By jona bryndis, Sep 14 2017 05:59PM
Jona and I are still hearing from numerous people who are really struggling right now with the intensities that are quite bombarding or overwhelming to the point where one can become unsure what is their 'stuff' (ego patterns, emotions) and what is others.
When the current intensities hit, it is like our energy becomes swamped or overcome, and if we don't work immediately to center or ground, we can easily get spun into fear, worry, doubt, anger, and the whole gambit of defensive responses in the hopes that we can cope with all that is hitting us.
First of all, if this has happened or is happening, cut yourself some slack.
Our society is going faster and faster and the world is as well. Timelines are shortening, responses are expected to be instantaneous and everything turning out 'ok' or 'exactly as expected' is the only thing that most want to hear.
And, if these slightly outrageous demands aren't met, the intensity spikes up further into blaming, justifying, and a whole slew of attacks in the attempt to blame anyone so that no responsibility or need to change and most can hide in how unfair things are or in how much better they are than others.
Now, these games has always been at play, but the speed at which they are occurring and stress to the overall system right now with political, environment, and social issues on the rise, can make it feel almost like it is too much to handle as our own programs are spiking and the added intensity of the collective just doesn't feel that good.
Intense times, however, actually bring up amazing opportunities to shift and change our ways, but it sometimes isn't the that fun of a ride as they occur. If can remember this potential change, that alone can help, but there are a couple things to remind yourself of when you get a bit shocked or hit by what is going on 'in the world.'
Remember to Breathe - focusing on our breath and slowing it down sends multiple messages to the body to settle, relax and energetically center. As this occurs, we may notice much of what is bothering us subsides for a bit
Remind yourself of what is currently going on in the present moment - many times when we become 'swamped' or 'overwhelmed' it is simply our ego/mind attempting to pull into various futures or pasts. This is what the ego does, utilizing only experience to hopefully 'fix' or 'cope with' imbalances as they arise. Many times, this will not work, but by reminding yourself that nothing is really happening right now (majority of the time), we can begin to pull back from the projections and worries that 'might' or 'could' happen. This also centers our energy a bit and helps to relax
For example, if you find yourself in fear, are really in danger right now? If so, then of course the ego can help you with flight or fight. But, the majority of the time, we are not in danger in that very moment, we are worrying about what could occur. By simply realizing this, we can let the fear go and be more proactive in creating a better solution
Change what you are doing or try something different - Shift your energy and how you normally 'handle' or 'cope' with these intensities. By doing so, you actively begin to search out new ways that may be more effective. Here are some activities to try or to pull back from to help with this:
- Back off on watching television or social media
- Pull back from intense interactions that are not needed; same for people
- Put down your phone and talk to someone in person
- Play with your kids or your pets
- Go for a walk
- Set things that bother you aside for a bit so they don't overwhelm you
- Talk with someone you care about who will listen
Accept that you are not in control of anything, but one thing - This one is tough sometimes as when we feel out of control it can add to our stress. But, if we just accept that we never were in control other than our actions and reactions, we can work to let this go to and pull back from thinking we have to have an answer for everything.
Enriching your life and pulling back from the faster and faster 'rat race' of life is a way of becoming more real and less into projections or distractions. It also brings you into a calmer state where you have more space to feel things out and make healthier decisions. And, by taking a proactive approach to dealing with intensities as they arise, you move into a more active and functional way of being.
Except that intense times and stress are part of life, but they don't have to ruin or run you. It is really a matter of shifting your energy and position in the moment. As in this, we begin to focus a bit within and this enhances not only our ability to handle these situations, but also opens us up to new ways coming in to aid us.
Energy Coach and Founder of Selfunificaiton.com
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